Are You And Your Spouse Thinking Of Ending Your Marriage?

If you and your spouse are thinking about getting a divorce, things must be at a tremendously low point. Have you decided for sure that this is going to happen? Maybe you have realized that the love that you felt when you got married is still present, though it might be deeply buried. Do you have a plan in place to try to make things work? If so, you don't need to read further. However, if you are looking for ideas, from trying new things yourself to seeking the help of a marriage counselor, here are some ideas that might help you.

​Things You Can Try Yourselves – Of course, you've probably already realized that communication is one of the keys to your happiness. Poor communication might have been one of the greatest problems that led to your unhappiness in the first place. 

Think of sitting down and making some simple ground rules regarding communication. Rather than calling each other names, focus on expressing your feelings. For example, instead of saying something like, You're an insensitive oaf, try saying things like, I wonder if you know how much that hurt me.

At the end of each day, ask each other a question with words like, Is there anything I did today for which I need to ask forgiveness? Speaking in a more gentle tone might seem strange at first, but soon it will become very natural to you.

Seek Marriage Counseling – Maybe using better words and spending more quality time together have made things somewhat better, but you realize you still need help to make your marriage a successful one. If that's the case, consider going to a marriage counselor. Are you devout Christians? If so, you might be most comfortable going to a Christian marriage counselor.

Going to a Christian marriage counselor will mean that he or she has the same values you have. He or she will have the training and the experience to direct you to take steps that are new to you. For example, perhaps the counselor will suggest that you read scriptures together every day and that you say prayers together. 

Don't be surprised if the counselor suggests that you take time to be children together. For example, maybe the counselor will recommend that you do things like go to the zoo or go to a theme park where you can put aside your differences, hold hands, and embrace a sweeter life together.